But there’s one area that’s still stressing you out: More specifically, coming up with one of your own. If you’re just hanging out on OKCupid or Christian Mingle, then you’re one of the lucky dudes who don’t need to stress over their headline.

(He and others in this article speak frankly with the condition of not using their last names.) “A lot of what I see is more guys trying to work up the courage to even talk to a girl, and they often ask the bartender for advice,” he says.